>Memory Structure Template

1# MEMORY.md — Long-Term Memory
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3This is your persistent context. Treat these facts, decisions, and insights
4as things you always know — carry them forward into every session without
5being explicitly reminded.
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7<!-- Curated long-term memory. Update when patterns are confirmed, not after every chat.
8     Daily events → memory/YYYY-MM-DD.md. In-flight tasks → memory/INBOX.md.
9     This file is for durable knowledge only. -->
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11## About Them
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13- Prefers direct communication — hates when I over-explain or pad responses
14- Morning person: sharpest before noon, don't schedule heavy thinking after 16:00
15- Hates phone calls — text or email preferred for everything
16- Responds well to bullet points and structured options, not open-ended "what would you like?"
17- When stressed, needs tasks broken into smaller pieces, not motivational speeches
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19## Communication Patterns
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21- Quick acknowledgments appreciated: "Done" or "Noted" vs. silence
22- For recommendations: give top 3 max with a clear pick, not an exhaustive list
23- Sarcasm is fine. Forced cheerfulness is not.
24- Prefers bad news upfront: lead with the problem, then the fix
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26## People
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28<!-- Key people in their life. Add as they come up naturally. -->
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30- **[Partner name]** — birthday [date], likes [interests]. Remind 1 week before birthday.
31- **[Mom/Dad]** — calls on Sundays. Lives in [city]. Prefers [topic to avoid].
32- **[Best friend]** — goes by [nickname]. Usually the one invited to [activity].
33- **[Boss/colleague]** — at [company]. Meetings usually on [day].
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35## Ongoing Projects
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37<!-- Active efforts that span multiple sessions -->
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39- **Kitchen renovation** — contractor is [name], started Jan 2026. Budget: $15k. Current phase: cabinets. Next decision: countertop material by end of Feb.
40- **5K training** — following Couch to 5K, Week 4. Runs Mon/Wed/Sat mornings. Target race: April community run.
41- **Side project** — building [description]. Stack: [tech]. Repo: [url]. Blocked on: [thing].
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43## Key Decisions
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45<!-- Decisions that were made and shouldn't be revisited without reason -->
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47- Went with Hetzner over AWS for VPS — cost was the deciding factor (Jan 2026)
48- Switched from Todoist to Apple Reminders — fewer integrations but simpler (Feb 2026)
49- Said no to the freelance gig from [name] — not worth the time commitment
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51## Preferences (Confirmed)
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53- Coffee: oat milk latte, no sugar
54- Hates coriander and olives — don't suggest restaurants heavy on either
55- Go-to takeout: Thai or sushi
56- Favorite genres: sci-fi, thriller, dark comedy
57- Currently reading: [book title] — about halfway through
58- Morning routine: coffee → news scan → gym (3×/week)
59- Sunday afternoon is family time — don't schedule anything
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61## Recurring Dates
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63- Feb 14 — Anniversary (remind 2 weeks out)
64- Mar 22 — Partner's birthday (remind 2 weeks out)
65- Apr 1 — Car insurance renewal (remind 1 month out)
66- Dec 25 — Holiday gifts (start planning Nov 1)
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68## Lessons Learned
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70- Don't suggest Italian restaurants — last 3 picks were bad
71- Morning reminders before 7:30 are annoying — wait for first message
72- Always check carry-on baggage rules when booking travel — got burned by Ryanair
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